Watch What You Say. A common mistake divorced parents make is to communicate through your children. Do not use your children as messengers going back and forth between their parents. You may want to have as little contact with your…
Staying Sober as a Single Parent
Contributed by: Michelle Peterson Whether you are starting your recovery journey with a baby on the way or with a six year old who is already here, becoming sober and staying sober are greatly beneficial to your health and happiness, as…
Top Ten Tips for Co-Parenting- Part 8
Be a Peacemaker. Do all you can to make the visitation exchange as tension free as possible. It is nice to share the responsibility of transportation by either splitting the trips or meeting somewhere half way. If you are going…
Even If
It is hard to believe my life changed forever nearly 5 years ago. This is not going to be my annual check in but a new song by Mercy Me has come out and it has made such an impact…
Top Ten Tips for Co-Parenting- Part 7
Be Healed Do not rush your healing process. When you first got married it was for better or worse. Obviously something terrible happened to get you in the place you are now in. Take the time to evaluate that and…
Healing From Divorce
blog contributed by – Rachel Rueckert from Elk River MN 14 years! That was the magical number of years I was told that it would take for me to heal from my divorce. I was told that if you doubled…
Heaven Knows…
Posted by Missionary Momma I have gone to the movie “The Shack” twice now. Both times it moved me in such a powerful way. I have not been able to get it off my mind and have found myself googling…
Top Ten Tips for Co-Parenting- Part 6
Be the Parent – Do not spoil your child in order to overcompensate for your mistakes. As much as you may feel terrible about putting your children through a divorce, do not slack on your role as being a parent…
A blast from the past
Last Thursday night I did something I have not done for a very long time, something I had not done since my Jon went home (Heaven). I was not sure how it would go but there was a need so…
Top Ten Tips for Co-Parenting- Part 5
Be the Adult. Do not put your children in the place of your caretaker/counselor. Allow your children to be children. They are not made to carry your burdens. Find a friend to be your sounding board or advice giver. Don’t…
WELCOME TO 2017 (Part 2)
Last month I shared some observations as we move into a new year by taking a minute and reflecting on the past year, like looking in a mirror. I would encourage you to go back and read last months…
Top Ten Tips for Co-Parenting- Part 4
Hold your Tongue. Do not argue in front of your children…period. Heated conversations regarding schedules, finances or personal issues should take place on the phone when your children are not around. Research has found that the most poorly adjusted children…
WELCOME to 2017!!!
With 2017 here it is a great time to reflect on the past year and look into the new year for new beginnings. It’s like looking into a mirror on the past years accomplishments and set backs and then looking…
Top Ten Tips for Co-Parenting- Part 3
Be Flexible. Be willing to alter the visitation schedule. Consistency is usually always the best policy except if being flexible makes it more possible for your children to develop a better relationship with their other parent. Pay attention to schedules…
Top Ten Tips for Co-Parenting-Part2
Be Open Encourage your child to communicate. It is so important for them to feel safe and free to share whatever feelings they may have. If they have feelings associated with the other parent, encourage them to go directly to…
Being Thankful When We Don’t Feel Like It
The summer goes by so quickly that I sometimes start looking forward to the fall so that I can get back into a routine again. Then fall comes and I miss the summer. The routine I think I am waiting…
The Anxious Leaf
The leaves are changing, the air is cooler and school is well on it’s way. Fall….the beauty of it, the close of the warm sun replaced by the cool breeze. When I got remarried I was blessed with 3 more…
Man’s Best Friend, or should I say “Girl’s Best Friend”
Tonight is a sad night. It’s the night before I’m putting my pup to sleep. She has been with me through a lot. We brought her home the night after my father’s surgery at Mayo. I remember it as if…
You can’t do it alone
I remember my first fall after being separated from my husband. My children were 5 and 7. I had been attending a local MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) group once a week at my local church. But I was needing something…
Fall Brings Change
It is hard to believe summer is quickly passing by and fall is in the air. The fall brings lots of changes; school starts, schedules come back, work picks up, football starts and my schedule starts to fill up with…
How to help the child of divorce who has been gone all summer
Posted on August 1, 2016 by Linda Jacobs Summer is almost over in many places. You probably have a lot of kids getting excited about the new school year. You are going to see kids wearing some of their new…
Seven Beatitudes for Successful Co-Parenting – Part 7
Be Healed Jer. 17:14 Heal me, O Lord, and I will be healed, save me and I will be saved, for you are the one I praise. James 5:16 Confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another,…
Seven Beatitudes for Successful Co-Parenting – Part 6
Be A Team Eccles. 4:9-12 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work. If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and no one to help…
Tips for Single Parent Vacations
Single parents have unique challenges when it comes to taking their children on vacation. Although your goal would be to spend quality time together, you should be able to spend some time for yourself as well. When I was…
Seven Beatitudes for Successful Co-Parenting – Part 5
Be Near Ruth 1:16-18 But Ruth replied, Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. May the Lord deal with me, be it ever…