Journey Through Divorce

Divorce is one of the most stressful life events a person can experience.  A financial disruption is not uncommon for one or both of the spouses involved.  Often this can be severe enough to lead to the eventual bankruptcy of one of both of the parties.  If that’s not bad enough by itself, the additional stress from moving and perhaps a related job change is enough to cause physical illness in a person.  But the damage done from divorce doesn’t stop there, children, families and others are often negatively impacted from the divorce as well.  Even businesses and churches have been torn apart or divided as the result of divorce.

Recent studies suggest that even after time has passed, a person who has experienced divorce never returns to the same levels of happiness and satisfaction that they experience before they experienced divorce.  Instead, an increased incidence of depression and dissatisfaction is likely to follow.  While the decrease in happiness and satisfaction may rebound and improve some given time, a person is not likely to fully return to the levels that were present before the divorce.

With all of this known, it’s surprising that more than 40% of all marriages will eventually fail and end up in divorce.  If we know beforehand that we are likely to end up worse off after divorce, then why is it that we so frequently choose the road to divorce anyway?  Perhaps most people contemplating divorce do not truly understand the effects that divorce are likely to have on them.  Or perhaps they are deceived into thinking that even the most difficult journey and worst possible outcome are better than their current situation.

Whatever the reason is, it is our at Journey Through Divorce that divorce is often chosen prematurely.  While a separation or divorce may bring about temporary relief from an immediate and focused difficulty, its long reaching effects are not likely to result in a situation better than the alternatives that are available.  It is our experience and belief that divorce is rarely the best option.  And while the current situation may seem to be without hope, even the most damaged relationship can become one in which both partners are completely happy and satisfied.