One of the toughest things in life is to admit that we need help. But it can also be the most rewarding as well.
Over the years I have been to counseling many times. I think I have gone with each of my children at some time over the past 15 years since my divorce. In fact, just recently my son and I paid a visit. We had been having some miscommunication issues and really needed to air some things out. Was it easy? Absolutely NOT. It is never comfortable talking about touchy issues. I do not like conflict. But we knew there was something that was building between us and we needed a 3rd party to help us sort it out. A few short hours can make or break a relationship. And any relationship of mine is worth that effort.
I think people tend to shy away from counseling because it can be difficult finding a good counselor that you can relate to, be honest with and has good advice. A good counselor should not just listen but they should also challenge you to make better choices and re-evaluate your situations. Through the years I have been blessed with a wonderful counselor. She has been with me for a number of years and over a number of different crisis’s. This has been a blessing beyond all comprehension. I realize not everyone is as fortunate as me but having a good counselor is as valuable as gold. So seek for it. Ask around for word of mouth recommendations. Do not give up. If you have not found one that works for you yet, I encourage you to keep on trying. There is one out there, I’m sure of it.
Things to look for in a good counselor –
- Are they a Christian counselor?
- What are their specialties areas?
- Are they a good listener?
- Are they a compassionate person?
- Will they challenge you?
- Do they ask a lot of questions?
- Do you feel encouraged when you leave?
- Do they have a good reputation?
- Do they take your health insurance?
- If not, do they charge on a sliding scale?
- Do you feel more comfortable with a male or a female?
- Have they been recommended by someone you trust?
- Does your church have anyone who does counseling?
- Does your church have people they recommend?
I have personally learned so much through my counseling experiences. I have become a much stronger, wiser and better person. I challenge you to pray about it, ask around, do some research and make an appointment. It will be worth it!! I promise!!