I am doing a series of blogs on the top 10 things you should do when you become separated. Below is the 2nd thing on the list. Please read and keep your eyes open to special people who will stick closer than a friend.
2. FIND A GOOD FRIEND
One of the greatest gifts you can give yourself is finding someone who has a good listening ear. This is a rare but invaluable gift. There will be many times when you will need a sounding board, someone to blow off steam with, someone to talk issues through with, someone who will just listen and not try to fix you or judge you in any way. They are someone who will allow you to express your anger but not fuel it. They will offer you encouragement and make sure you are taking care of yourself first. They should be a shoulder for you to cry on and someone who will provide you comfort and safety. It is very important that this person is of the same sex as you. Leaning on someone of the opposite sex at such a vulnerable time can be very dangerous and will lead to additional issues. It could be possible that this person was a friend of both you and your spouse. But make sure they are looking out for YOUR best interest and you don’t ever feel like you need to question their loyalty. If this is the person you select it is also important you never put them in the middle of issues or expect them to fight the battles for you.
Hopefully by now you are feeling stronger and have found someone you can trust. Check back soon to see the #3 thing you should do when you become separated.