When we get married we never dream of a day when our love of a lifetime blows up and we find ourselves in so much pain.  You try and try to make it work and for a million reasons it just doesn’t. You hang on, praying for a miracle, and that miracle never seems to come. Every time you wake up it feels like a nightmare. You roll over to go back to sleep and hope mystically the next time you open your eyes your world will be right side up.  You pray, you beg, you bargain, just to have another chance. It takes your breath away and you just don’t know what to do.

Although all these feelings are very normal we need to find our balance and hang on to the hope that things will be okay again someday. And I promise you, they will! You just gotta take one step and a time, breathe through the rough moments, find ways to move past the bitterness, put up healthy boundaries and move forward in your healing.  All this takes time and a decision to make healthy choices. It won’t happen overnight but as you put one foot in front of the other you will find yourself making progress and peace will again come into your life.

Below is a wonderful poem that will inspire you to keep on the path towards healing. The road won’t be easy but I assure you there will be beauty along the way and every day you will be moving closer to a place where you will be stronger and find more clarity in your life. Just keep your focus and continue to cling on to the hope for a better future.

The Life I Planned by Beth Moore

Has someone seen the life I planned?
It seems it’s been misplaced
I’ve looked in every corner
It’s lost without a trace
I’ve found one I don’t recognize
Things missing that were dear
Promises I’d hope to keep
And dreams I’d dreamed aren’t here
Faces I had planned to see
Hands I planned to hold
Now absent in the pictures
Not the way I told
Has someone seen the life I planned?
Did it get thrown away?
God took my hand from searching
Then I heard him say,

“Child, your ears have never heard
Your eyes have never seen
Eternal plans I have for you
Are more than you could dream.
“You long to walk by sight
But I’m teaching eyes to see.
I know what I am doing
‘Til then, you must believe.”
He’s done so much, I felt ashamed
To know He heard my moans
To think I’d trade in all He’s done
For plans made on my own.
I wept over His faithfulness
And how He’d proved Himself
How He’d gone beyond my dreams
And said to Him myself,

“No, my ears have never heard
My eyes have never seen
Eternal plans you have for me
Are more than I could dream.
“Yes, I long to walk by sight
But You’re teaching eyes to see
You know what You are doing
‘Til then, I must believe.”
I felt His great compassion
Mercy unrestrained
He let me mourn my losses
And showed me to my gains.
I offered Him my future
And released to Him my past
I traded in my dreams
For a plan He said would last.
I get no glimpse ahead
No certainties at all
Except the presence of the One
Who will not let me fall.
Are you also searching
For a life you planned yourself?
Have you looked in every corner?
Have you checked on every shelf?

Child, your ears have never heard
Your eyes have never seen
Eternal plans He has for you
Are more than you could dream.
Perhaps you long to walk by faith
But He’s teaching eyes to see
He knows what He is doing
Child, step out and believe.

“No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind
has conceived what God has prepared
for those that love Him.” 1 Corinthians 2:9

Blessings and hugs,