Family Team - Journey Through Divorce

Be A Team

Eccles. 4:9-12  Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work. If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and no one to help him up…Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

Webster defines teamwork as: the combined action of a group of people, especially when effective and efficient.

As hard as this may seem, it is possible! Here are some tips:

  • Make a goal. The goal might be very broad, like “we will raise our children to know that they are loved by both parents.” A team without a common goal cannot begin to play the game.
  • Make a game plan. What roles will each parent play? What roles do they want the stepparents to play? How can they help each other? How will they ensure that children do not play them against each other? What strategies can be negotiated to facilitate the most desires of each parent for the kids?
  • This is the key to being able to work with anyone as a team. Communicating your concerns and strategies are the glue that will keep everyone on the same team.
  • Pull your weight. The more both parents take part in parenting tasks, the more the children will feel connected to each parent.