Journey Through Divorce - Who Am I

I don’t know about you but when I went through my divorce it rocked me to the core. I had spent 20 years developing who I was and then in only a few short months I was knocked to my knees again.

Who Am I? These 3 simple words became a new life question for me. I found myself asking this simple question numerous times a day. In time I found myself asking many defining questions. Things like –

Am I a night owl or an early riser?
What do I like to do for fun?
Am I an extrovert or an introvert?
What do I like to do in my spare time?
Who are my true friends?
Am I an animal lover or not?
Where do I want to live?
What kind of movies do I like?
What is the purpose of my life?
What church do I want to go to?
What do I believe and why?
What do I want to do for work?

These are just a few questions that come to mind as I think back. All these questions can be overwhelming. What do you do with them? I would like to suggest a few things –

  1. Don’t panic. Most of who you are is God given. In time you will find yourself falling back into the person you were even before you got married.
  2. Be aware of who and what you let influence your choices. Remember you just got out of a relationship that didn’t work out. Put those people in your life that will love and accept you for who you are.
  3. Seek God to find contentment in who you are and in who He wants you to be. He will give you the peace that you need as you redefine your life.
  4. Sometimes in the battle of marriage you can loose sight of who you were and who you want to become. This s not a bad thing, it is very normal. But now is the time to re-establish your values, your dreams and your own personality.
  5. Take the time needed to discover yourself. Things don’t change overnight. Give yourself the time needed to fall back into the comforts of who you are.
  6. Realize you’re vulnerable right now. Do not be quick to attach yourself to someone who is just like your ex or someone exactly the opposite of your ex. If you allow time to work its course, you will probably end up somewhere in the middle. Put a wall of protection around you and your world. People may want to come in and take advantage of your position and add confusion to your life. Guard yourself. Protect your surroundings. People are counting on you.
  7. Let the roller coaster of emotions settle down.  You will be experiencing many highs and lows at first. Don’t make any quick assumptions or rash decisions. In time your emotions will level out and you will begin to see the real you come through.
  8. And lastly but most importantly … Allow God to guide you. He is the one who made you – don’t you think He knows you best anyways?

A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.
Lao Tzu


Have fun discovering,


Psalms 139:14

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.