We’re getting back in the saddle After 2 years I am so excited to be going back to the annual AACC (American Association of Christian Counselors) World Conference. It is next week in Orlando Florida and I can’t tell you…
Nesting and The Children of Divorce
By Linda Ransom Jacobs Nesting is a term often used by family courts, lawyers and divorcing parents. It means the parents continue to share a residence after the divorce for the sake of the children. The parents stay at the…
5 Misconceptions About Children of Divorce and Their Families
BY LINDA RANSON JACOBS In order to minister to children of divorce, we have to understand them. Unfortunately, many people who minister to children hold some common misperceptions about children of divorce and their families. They might not realize the…
Ask me no questions and I’ll tell you no lies
by Linda Jacobs Children of divorce have a lot of questions to ask but many times they don’t know whom to ask. If or when they do get up the courage to ask their questions, many are told lies. Or maybe…
Middle School Aged Children and Divorce
Do Some Middle School Aged Kids Do Better When It Comes to Dealing With Divorce? Recently I had a middle school teacher ask me a question that proved to be fairly thought provoking. I wanted to share his question and…
Ask Me No Questions and I’ll Tell You No Lies
By Linda Ransom Jacobs Unfortunately children of divorce have a lot of questions to ask but many times they don’t know whom to ask. When they do ask, many are told lies or maybe not really lies but half-truths. Children…
When Nothing Was Right
When Nothing Was Right BY LINDA RANSON JACOBS One time I was working with the cutest little single parent family. There were three children. Michael was the middle child in between two bossy sisters. One morning he was really grouchy.…
3 Tips for Women on a Rough Rode
By Gail Cawley Showalter Potholes are ugly nuisances and can really make travel unpleasant. Life can be like a rough road. Pot holes and bumps make it difficult to see ahead. I know. I’ve hit my share of those ugly…
How to Accept Life on Life’s Terms
by Gail Cawley Showalter Can You Accept What Is? Audio Player https://seeinguthrough.files.wordpress.com/2018/10/smore-2018-oct-1-what-happens.mp3 Radio Spot as aired on KLBT 88.1 This message is to me. I need it as much as anyone. I know how I want things to go. I know how I like…
Setting Boundaries in Relationships
Boundaries in Relationships Judy H. Wright Setting personal boundaries are like identifying the gates in our invisible fence lines which protects the precious heart and soul inside our bodies. Many people look at boundaries as walls, but rather when we…
The Divorce Battle-No Winners
By Robyn Besemann I don’t know about you, but this pictures hurts my heart on many levels. The mom and dad are yelling at each other with great anger in their eyes and gestures, while the boy is devastated sitting in…
Super Single Moms
By Robyn Besemann When someone says “single mom”, what is the first thing that pops into your head? Fatigue? Responsibility? Stress? Strength? Was your mom a single mom? Are YOU a single mom? What are three words…
Co-Parenting That Hurts Kids
By Linda Ranson Jacobs Co-parenting among divorcing couples is becoming more popular. For many children this is a good thing. This means they get to have both parents making life-long decisions for their welfare. It means children can still have…
Out of the Tunnel
By Robyn Besemann Have you ever felt like you were stumbling around in a tunnel and didn’t know how to get out of it? Maybe you are unemployed and can’t seem to find a good job. Maybe you have been in…
Helping Kids Cope With Tragedy
WRITTEN BY WAYNE STOCKS Initial Thoughts When it comes to tragedy, it is important to remember that life presents us with a series of teachable moments for our kids. Some of those are not very stressful, and some are tragic.…
Helping Suicidal Children
By Barbara W. Wright, LPC, CCPS, and Linda Ranson Jacobs Valuable insights on the issue of suicide in elementary-age children Almost all the research that’s been done on suicidal youth is done with teens. Yet we know that latency-age children…
Parental Alienation After Divorce: Never Take It Out On the Kids!!!
WRITTEN BY ROSALIND SEDACCA Divorce conflicts between parents can get ugly. And too often parents tend to vent or share this anger about the other parent with one or more of the children involved. The results can be devastating –…
Single Parents: Your Children’s Choices Start With You
By Amanda Henderson While it may not always seem like it, your children are paying attention. Keep reading for ways to encourage your kids to make healthy choices even when you’re not there. A healthy home First and foremost, you need…
What Do I Do When One of My Parents Doesn’t Want Me to Love the Other?
BY WAYNE STOCKS If you ever wonder if it’s ok to love both of your parents after a divorce or separation, the answer to this question is simple: YES You absolutely have the right to love both of your parents…
Should I Tell My Parents How I Feel?
BY WAYNE STOCKS Following the divorce or separation of your parents, your relationship with them may feel distant or strained. It may be the case that you have been angry with them and have intentionally avoided them causing your relationship…
How will you honor a single mom on Mother’s Day?
by Linda Jacobs Mother’s Day is coming up. Have you thought much about how you might honor the single mothers in your congregation? For me personally, Mother’s Day was one of the hardest days of celebration when my kids weren’t with…
Love, family and single moms
By Gail Showalter After an unwelcome and heart breaking divorce I moved in with my 71-year-old, widowed mother. She was a good sport and a great help. In the mornings she helped get kids ready for school and me off to…
Anyway by Mother Teresa
BY WAYNE STOCKS If you know the story of Mother Teresa, you know that she experienced the worst of this world can throw at people. Despite that, she remained focus and determined to the very end and helped innumerable people in the…
Do children experience “stages” of divorce?
Posted on February 5, 2018 by Linda Jacobs For years, people who work with children of divorce have wondered what the stages of grief are for these kids. One children’s minister asked me, “How can I help a child of divorce when I…
What Is Custody And Visitation?
BY WAYNE STOCKS H4HK FAQs are designed to answer questions kids and teens ask when facing difficult situations and circumstances in their lives. When your parents were married, they likely worked together to make decisions regarding you, and you probably all…
